The Messenger Mohammad laid in the verses of the Qur’an important solid foundations for the Mohammadians to live and dispose of their lives. These principles were obscure in the Arabian Peninsula. Today some of them are useful to the global community; they have changed the course of the interested Bedouin and polytheists’ lives forever and have become legal and necessary rulings in the life of Mohammadians, but not all of them are compatible with the modern urban age.
The Most Important of These Principles Are:
• Worship god who he created.
• Marriage: Before Mohammad, a woman used to live a dangerous life, subject to humiliation, murder, kidnapping and sale in the slave market, orgies and working in prostitution, especially an orphan. The orphan female was one of the most unfortunate human beings on the peninsula, her role being to serve man’s selfishness as he considered her a seductive slave, to gratify him sexually and to rape her by force.
The Messenger Mohammad came, stopped and abolished these primitive, barbaric behaviours with a disciplined legitimacy. Except for some laws, including violence, criminality and ambiguity, that still exist and are applied to both men and women.
First: Considering women as human beings like men. She has the permissible rights, duties, proper care and respect.
• Mohammad recommended how a man should contract a marriage with a woman to secure her rights to live with him and in the event of divorce.
• A man has no right to hit and insult a woman or to treat her with violence and threats.
• Protecting the believing women by preserving their private parts. See the details in Surat al- Nour, Verses 30 and 31.
• It is forbidden to have sex between a man and a woman during her period. He must separate from her and not approach her for sexual intercourse until she is purified and completely clean of her menses.
• It is forbidden for a man to have sex with a woman contrary to normal intercourse. He has the right to have intercourse with a woman only through her vagina.
• A girl or a woman has a personal choice in choosing her life partner.
• The orphan girl or the widowed woman, he recommended: ‘Make sure that the knowledge of orphans is mature and give them their money if they reach the age of majority. And do not exchange the bad for the good and do not consume their money for your money, for that deed is a great sin.’
• It is forbidden for children to marry the wives of their fathers, including widows, as it was previously before the creed of Mohammad.
It is forbidden to marry mothers and grandmothers, daughters and sons’ daughters, sisters, aunts, sisters of mothers and aunts, sisters of fathers, nieces and nephews…See the details in Surat al-Nisa.
• The lust of a man for a man is not permitted because he acted disobediently and outside the bounds of common sense and moderation. Read the Qur’an Surat al-Ara’f, Verse 81.
• The Mohammadian should fear injustice and be just between the women he marries. In Mohammad’s belief, according to him, his god specified the maximum number of wives. It is permissible for a Mohammadian to marry what he wants from women of different categories: marry two by two, or three by three, or only four by four. ‘If you fear that you will not be fair between them and then marry only one.’ See Surat al-Nisa, Verse 3.
This claim or suggestion, concealed by an excuse from the god of Mohammad, permitting a man to marry four women, is not permitted in the legality of the laws of the elevated East and West countries in the Jewish faith and Christian orientation and the saying of Christ in the First and Second Church. It is against the sophisticated, conscious, civilized mind and common sense. Because it is just lust for the self and selfishness of the man and a heavy burden on the husband to secure the cost of living equally in building the family and it is considered prostitution, low contempt and animal behaviour for the dignity of women.
But in the Mohammadiah states, some sensible, wise, sophisticated and civilized men marry one woman to respect her and preserve her dignity. And to secure the costs, raise the family’s livelihood, they educate their children in high educations, because it is the era of growth development, trade ship, and science.
Here I would like to tell the story of a young Lebanese Mohammadian who drew our respect to him.
The Story of a Young Mohammadian
I would like to tell the story of a young Lebanese Mohammadian who drew our respect to him for his perseverance in his struggle on how to build his own honourable family. He was a young boy from a financially poor family, consisting of a father, two mothers and fifteen children. I do not reveal their names in detail out of respect for their privacy and reputation.
That young man loved science. He left school reluctantly in the early fifties, because his father could not help him to complete his educations. He fell in love with a single, same age, awesome Mohammadian girl, at the age of sixteen. There was not a single kirsh, dime, ‘penny,’ in his pocket. Before he married her, he made an agreement with an owner of a public taxi driver, to work with him in the afternoon from three o’clock until nearly midnight. He went to work effortlessly without interruption, spent his spare time with his beloved and managed his income consciously and wisely.
The taxi owner used to spend his time gambling and with women. After about five years, the owner was unable to pay the bills and pay the debts for its registration, insurance, service and repair. He offered to sell it to the hardworking young driver; he bought it from him and began working on it for twelve hours, six days. After nearly freeing himself from debt, he married his sweetheart at the age of twenty-seven and decided to have three children. Intentionally and consciously to send them to school and university, because he felt and touched from his personal situation that the days had changed, life was difficult and the era was the age of science, professions and specialization. With his awesome loyal wife, he focused his attention on raising them, educating them with the best education, disciplines, care, science and respect for society, law and order.
His eldest son was intelligent; he entered university to study law. He graduated as a lawyer and continued his studies part-time until he was included as a judge in an administrative government department because he did not want to work in criminal courts. From his generous salary, he started helping his second brother with his education expenses. His second brother liked electrical engineering, graduated as an engineer and then immigrated to Arab countries. The younger brother entered medical school and graduated as a clever doctor, then travelled to Europe, specialized and graduated as a brilliant surgeon with the financial aid of his father and brothers.
When the three brothers gathered in Lebanon with their parents, the proud honourable father said before the people present, ‘Those are my wife and children; they are my pride and wealth of Lebanon’s wealth.’
His children asked him to retire and spend his time with their mother for their well-being and they took care of them in the best care. After a period of longevity their father left this world to the other world. At his extraordinary funeral was a crowd of common people, comprising of various classes and religions. And a number of politicians, lawyers, judges, engineers and doctors, for his good reputation, his upright life, his honourable family, his devotion and his love for his country and for the service of society without discrimination.
This Mohammadian man, the father and honest husband, is a good example to society in his religion, his biography and the building of his honourable family. He did not succumb to his own instincts and run spending his life-body’s energy behind distractions and women. And he didn’t get married several times and abandon his duty as responsible father shepherd to help his children.
Perhaps he learned from his father’s mistake and adhered to the words of the messenger:
‘And if you fear that you will not be fair between them, then marry only one.’
Rather, he chose one beloved, the companion of his life, united with her, respected her, preserved her dignity and relied on god and himself and built the human.
TO BE CONTINUED, NEXT TIME I WILL TALK ON DIVORCE, EATING AND DRINKING ETC. Until then have good times and take care.
These excerpts are from the book: “Is God a Lie or Are We? Certainly We Are!”
Author: Jamil Elias Kabalan
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